Hi there there,and here brian's picture(: & today,at this time,i'm here to blog about something,should i say,meaningful about ? Alright. Let me asked a question he asked me? I might changed it a little bit but it does have the same meaning in it.
Have you ever wondered,is there a need for you to have your bf/gf by side,or isit a want?
His answer : I don't need a gf.Its a want.
Do you guys understand?
Alright,we were talking about his ex gf that he broke off with a month ago. & so his ex gf said something like this as what he told me " i don't need you anymore,i've learnt to be independent "
I was wondering about this,see,its true you know. Everyone can do things on their own,lets say,sleeping? watching tv ? using the computer? going out with your friends? Is there really a need to have a bf? For what,have you asked yourself?
To have a bf/gf,its to pass time isn't it? I mean,if you really love someone,you'll feel its a need for him/her to be by your side,but if you think you love him yet it isn't what your heart is thinking,it will turn out to be a want right?
In a relationship,if you realize its a " want " that you need the person by your side,isn't it like a command? Like " hey,i need you here today " Why? Because you're bored? Nothing to do? But have you ever felt like you can't sleep,can't eat,can't concentrate on things or can't pass by a day easily without the person with you? How long can this go? 1 week,one month or 1 year? Lets have this few questions and you guys go think about it.
Have you ever lied on your partner's shoulder and feel like you're in heaven? Have you ever held hands with your love one and feel that " its enough,this is enough " ? Have you ever hugged someone,feeling warmth,feeling safe ? Have you ever see your love one sleeping,and think that he/she looks beautiful no matter whether they're sleeping with their mouth open ? Have you ever touched your partner's face and feel that " this is the right one,he/she's the right person for me " ?
How long will/can you appreciate the kisses & hugs your love ones gives you? You feel nice having someone for by side for the first few weeks/months,and as time passes,it isn't the same anymore. When you think you're still appreciating the things that the person gives,but are you sure it is? Its only words isn't it? Like " i love everything about you,your kisses and hugs " . Like " your hugs are everything " . If you think about it,is this true? As for me,i don't always hug my dad,but a few times a year,and it feels nice,feeling someone that has been with you for 16 long years,and he's still here. I don't mean that you should hug your partner a few times per year but i mean,you see,people only know how to appreciate things they have once in a while.
I have friends,who stayed by their partner now and then,till future. But as onlookers,all of us know,it isn't what he/she wants,she/he is just used to the person being by his/her side.By consoling yourself that this is the right guy/girl,isn't correct. The main point for everyone is to know what they want isn't it? I want you,dosen't means that you want me right? Its better to be loved than loving someone. You can't assume the other party need or wants you right? Words dosen't count,its the feeling that you've gotta find. I love you,and you say you love me,but is this true?
Gf ( xinhui ) always says this " No man will start to be serious till the age of 25,everyone including girls will keep on playing till the age of 25. So everyone has the right to play around till the age of 25. "
Is this true? Is this what everyone wants ? Having a bf and realizing he has 3 more girlfriends outside ? And only till the age of 25,your man will stop? Or being fair,having a gf and realizing she has 3 more boyfriends outside there? I don't agree on that,probably i've learnt to be a little more straight forward towards love, regardless of whether i need you or i want you,if we're over,we're over. If you or I could start to go around searching for other partners,then what for isn't it ? Stop wasting my or your time being by each other side and lets forget it. Is this right or wrong ? The more time you give your partner to change,the more wrongs you'll see in him/her. Then why not leave a good image,and go? Why go on hurting yourself/ourselves to be with the person you think he/she can change ? Yes,i admit i do this to,giving more and more time to the person i wish he could change,but as this drags on,the image of him in me changes,he's not him anymore. The first lie you hear from someone,you forgive and thought he/she wouldn't do it again,are you sure? You'll then start to realize more and more of every little lies he/she is doing around you.
I was messaging Brian,and i asked him this " Don't you think its so not worth it losing a long term relationship like that? " ( ps,for info,he and his ex gf lasted for 1 year 4 months )
He replied " I believe,if i belong to her,someday,i'll be hers. And we quarrel so much everyday,even if we continue,it will only spoil each others image in our heart,am i right to say this? "
Yes love,you're right about it. Because thinking back about me & darryn,we've been also quarreling about every single small thing that happen around us. And like what you gave the comment about your relationship with you ex gf,its right. " We've got really really happy moments together before,but we do have times that we could end up quarreling like the world's coming to an end. & after the both of us let go of what we have,we came back to the same,forever friends "
And even when we were gossiping about others,we'll also end up quarreling? Know why? Because he has his opinions and i have mine. In the past,we could accpet every thing each of us said,like keeping quiet when you say this,and you keep quiet when i say that. But as time passes,things aren't the same anymore.
I fell in love at the age of as young as 11 years old. This guy ( only my primary schoolmates know ) who i was together with for 1 and a half years was my first love. & it wasn't that bad afterall,till today when we see each other,we still smile and talked & play. Thinking back for me,i think he's worth it,he worthed every smile and tear i did for him. But i can also think back of people like A ( named not mentioned,don't wanna spoil anyone's reputation ) , A , J , G , etc... i feel that its god damn not worth it you know? And i would always think of this,if we all had remained as friends,things wouldn't be like that now. We wouldn't be embarrassed or feeling disgusted when we see each other. But everyone makes mistakes don't they? They still left a part of happy memories in me,and i've longed forgotten about those bad ones. Everything has passed,over a year,2 years probably for some.
I believe everyone has their own character and attitude,and one day,i'm sure each and everyone of us could find the person that has always been finding you too,loving each others character and attitude,giving in to everything,this is it. This is love,the one who could accept everything you are,fat or slim,tall or short,ugly or beautiful,smelly feet or better ones,one day isn't it,one day everyone will find someone they've always been searching for. Just remember,its pointless forcing someone to be with you,because when you do that,the more you'll spoil your image in the person's mind. The best is to let things go as naturally as possible,right?
& i believe,as long as me & darryn's still un-married,we'll still have chances of being back together. If you're fated to be mine & i'm fated to be yours,we'll forever be no matter how much we've got to go through. (:
( p.s. This post isn't meant to criticize or pin-point on anyone. Its just a comment from me to everyone (: thank you for reading. )
